Expecting a new baby is such an exciting time. You feel so many emotions and it’s pretty much the only thing on your mind. At least that’s how it is for me.
When will the baby come? Will I be ready? Will the house be ready? Will I know what to do? Will I forget something that’s important? What will he/she look like? Will the baby be healthy? Do I need a pediatrician now? What health insurance is right for the baby? Can we afford to take time off work? What will we do with the baby when we return to work?
Oh, so many questions…the list goes on and on…
One of the biggest causes for anxiety for me are the the “things” that the baby “needs.” There are so many products on the market these days. I won’t even try to list them here because the list would literally be endless.
Why are the baby’s things the cause for my anxiety?
Well, I have always been a minimalist. I don’t like having a lot of “stuff” because it makes me feel tied down. I like change, moving, growing – so the idea of being stranded really doesn’t appeal to me.
I thought long and hard about the type of life I want to lead. The type of life that I want my unborn child to have. The conclusion is clear.
I want to teach my child about life by giving him amazing experiences, big and small. I want those experiences to be about the world around him and the people he meets. I want to give him everything, but nothing at the same time. (Didn’t someone famous say that?)
Do you think it’s possible to achieve?
Do I sound like a dreamer?
How do you find that balance between giving him enough but not too much?
Here’s what I came up with:
Do Your Research
Walk the aisles in your local baby store, look at online retail sites, read online reviews, ask your friends or family that have young children, ask your doctor or pediatrician, talk to your neighbors, look at other people’s baby registries, read consumer reports, read baby books. Gather all the information you can on specific items and decide what is best for you and your baby. For example, you know you’ll need clothes but do you really need 50 onesies that are all the same size?
Consider Your Options For A Baby Shower
If you are considering having a baby shower:
- Register for the specific items you want and make sure there are enough items on your registry over and above the amount of people invited to the party. For example, if you are inviting 30 people to your party then you’ll want to register for more than 30 items. The point is to ensure every guest has something to choose on your registry. You should also take into account the dollar value of the items on your registry. If you invite 30 people and you register for 30 items but 10 of those items are $4 or less, you will probably have an issue.
- On your party invitation, make it clear (in a politically correct way) that you would prefer people to stick to the registry. You could say something like this: “We did our research on thousands of baby items! If you’d like to get us a gift, we are registered at ____ and ____.”
If you are considering not having a baby shower:
- Register for a small number of items.
- You can still send your family and friends a pregnancy announcement to get them excited for the upcoming birth of your child. On the announcement, you could say something like this: “We are thrilled to be expecting a baby and wanted to share the wonderful news with you. We decided not to have a baby shower but we can’t wait for you to meet the baby when he/she is here! We have almost everything we need but if you’d like to get us a small gift, we are registered at ____ and ____.”
Be Clear With Expectations
Let’s be clear, the baby is essentially another human being moving into your house. He/She is your new roommate. There will be “things” moving into your house. Make sure you understand that. Where you choose to put those things and how many of those things is completely within your control though.
Don’t Forget To Have Fun
A baby on the way can be exciting and overwhelming at the same time. Just don’t forget to have fun along the way. A baby is truly a gift. There is no other comparison in the world. So enjoy every minute of it!